Tuesday, December 09 2014
Being faced with losing your hair due to chemotherapy, alopecia or any other medical or natural form of hair loss can be quite confronting and overwhelming to many women. It's just hair isnt it? What's the big deal?
Firstly let's get one thing clear.
NO! IT IS NOT VAIN OR SUPERFICIAL OR SILLY OR (insert any other negative word here) TO BE UPSET ABOUT YOUR HAIR FALLING OUT.
It's perfectly OK to be upset.
Your hair is something you have grown very attached to over your entire lifetime. It stares you in the face EVERY time you look in the mirror. It goes with you EVERYWHERE, and has done your whole life.
If losing your hair is a big deal to you, then, it IS a BIG DEAL and that is perfectly F.I.N.E.
If losing your hair is not a big deal to you then that is perfectly FINE too!
Most women have a part of their morning routine devoted solely to their hair - every morning, every day.
YES! IT'S OK TO BE SAD ABOUT LOSING THIS STUFF. IT'S PERFECTLY NORMAL.
If you are having chemotherapy, chances are your hair IS going to grow back - YES! - A light at the end of this hairless tunnel! However you are still here and now, looking into the mirror at someone familiar, but just not the "you" you have identified with up until now. Of course you are still the same you on the inside, however our physical appearance is important to us - and that is OK, it is more than OK. When we like our physical appearance we are generally happier people on the inside.
It is perfectly normal to be upset and miss your hair. Its perfectly normal to just wish for your old hair back. Its perfectly normal to feel these things every time you look in the mirror, or go to run your fingers through where your hair used to be, or move your head the way you used to to flick your hair back when it was there.
Many women undegoing chemotherapy are also dealing with a cancer diagnosis as well as posible surgeries and or radiation treatment. Your world has been turned upside down with very little time to prepare and take in the copious amounts of information relating to your treatment plan. It is normal to be in a state of overwhelm and confusion. It is normal to ask "Why Me?". It is normal to think "It's not fair", and, even though these things seem so much of a bigger deal and so much more important than a bit of hair - It is still OK to be upset about losing your hair.
There are also plenty of women who are super Ok with losing their hair. This is normal too.
As women, as people, we are all individuals. Every single one of us has our own unique way of coping with what life throws at us. When faced with losing your hair, you've already got enough suff going on without beating yourself up about perfectly normal reactions to circumstances beyond your control. It's OK to feel so many different feelings. It's not vain, not selfish. not superficial, not silly - it's normal and perfectly OK.